“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments.” — Anne Morrow Lindbergh
I’ve never been one to be too horribly fearful of the future. Sure, there were times that I was nervous or afraid or worried about some upcoming event. And there were times I was scared to death. Somewhere along the way, I learned that the future would always turn out just fine.
It seems I will have to learn this lesson all over again since the arrival of Little Bird. This past week has been the story of seeing fearful futures:
- I saw stories of families whose houses were defaced because they had a child with Downs Syndrome.
- I saw stories of a city government trying to take away a friend of a child with Downs Syndrome because of an obtuse and archaic “law”.
- I read stories about parents struggling – financially and emotionally – to make sure that their child with Downs Syndrome had the continuity of care needed.
- I saw another major athlete take away the dignity of many children through his insensitive words and, so far, do nothing to restore that dignity.
- I read a story of a mother who, in the blink of an eye, lost her child.
These stories, and more, filled me with anxiety and fear for the future – not necessarily mine, but Little Bird’s.
What kind of world will Little Bird grow up in? Will he be bullied – physically or emotionally? Will he be mocked – for a medical condition he didn’t have a say in? Will our family be able to cull together the resources – financial and otherwise – to give him the best chance of a happy and fulfilling life?
Will he be happy?
Time and experience (and jumping out of airplanes in the Army) have taught me that I need only take 3 steps to get out of fear:
1) Stay in the Moment.
2) Take Action – any action.
AML’s quote reminded me of that path. These are the words of a woman who suffered – and survived – one of the very things that terrifies me. I like to think that it was her words, written many, many years ago, that gave me the push I need to get off the path of fear and enjoy a great week with a great family.
And a great week it was – longs walks and sitting in sunbeams, listening to music, and so much more I haven’t had time to tell you about. We capped a great week off with a family trip to see the Harlem Globetrotters – that trip has been 3 years in the making.
Today, I’m going to take the last step, and be grateful for what I have, not what I’m afraid of having.
I’ve added a new quote for the coming week.
In the footer, below, you will see a link to learn a little about its author.
I’m excited to see where this week’s quote takes us.by