Last week, I told Yankee Bird that our old neighbors – a lesbian couple – finally found a baby to adopt. He’ll be born by C-Section in mid-December, and I was so excited to learn these awesome women are going to have a baby that I’m beside myself.
Yankee Bird didn’t fully understand why I was so excited. Part of it was obvious – the part where I was just so happy that such good friends of ours finally were having a baby.
I explained to him that 15 years ago, a lesbian couple in Texas would have been unable to adopt.
Between laws that criminalized homosexuality, the social stigma against gays and lesbians that dominates the south, and a political structure straight out of the 1350’s (not to mention the fact that our current sitting Governor tries really hard to stay in the closet and convince people he’s hetero by enacting extremely anti-LGBT policies ), it was all but impossible for some Americans to have or raise children in Texas.
Yankee Bird’s response? An eye-roll and an ambivalent “What-evs”. It just didn’t matter to him.
To Yankee Bird, our friends are good and decent and caring and loving women that have as much right to have a child as any other couple out there. Somewhere way down the long list of awesome things he has to say about these 2 women is that they are lesbian.
Point is – it’s just not a big deal.
Here’s what is a big deal: the generation of people running our country are desperately trying to hold on to THEIR world.
The world that most of us have long since left behind and don’t want to return to. The world that we will finally have a chance to make better once the Old White Men in public office – in the words of that Governor I mentioned above – move on down the road.
These older generations are the ones that have the problem: younger generations of Americans don’t have the problems with race (and social issues) that the older generations did (and still do).
While not a direct quote, this is pretty close to the concept that Dallas City Councilman Dwaine Caraway was sharing while talking about race relations on the local NPR edition of “Think” a few nights ago.
I think his point is “spot-on”, as they say. To my older kids (11 and 13), a lot of the cultural issues that divide older generations are, simply put, a waste of time.
Here’s what is a bigger deal: our friends are having a BABY!!! As with many couples that adopt, they found out pretty late in the pregnancy and are now scrambling to figure out what they need to have a baby in the house in just under 3 months.
Would you help them out? Let’s start a list – in the comments section, will you write the 2 most important things that you think new adoptive parents need – or need to prepare – to survive the first 6 months with Baby?
If all my loyal readers post 2 things, we should be able to put together an impressive list.
I’ll get it started….let’s try not to repeat.
#1: At least a dozen inexpensive white/cotton onesies (there were days we went through 5+ outfits when Little Bird was in his “I HEART VOMIT” phase in month #2
#2: Pre-make, and freeze, a lot of soups and easy dinners. Momma Bird and I spent a whole weekend making and freezing 10-15 jars of spaghetti sauce, 3 lasagna trays, 4 or 5 types of soup, etc. its time to eat
Your turn to share your 2 things a couple needs to survive the first 6 months of a newly adopted baby….by